As a child I was taught to say “I’m sorry.” Nothing hurts more than having to hug your sister
and apologize following an argument. My mother would make us stop and hug each other.
Did I always mean it? Probably not, but it did teach me that when I’ve done something to
offend you that I need to apologize and as an adult I have had to do it many times.
We are human and in this human race there are many personalities. Those personalities
sometimes clash. What one person says to another can often be taken wrong. Our choice
of words, our tone, and our body language all play a part in the possible offense.
James 3:5-6 “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth. And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the
tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course
of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.”
When I was about five years old I found a box of matches in my grandfather's basement. I took those matches and went behind some bushes near the house. I used some dry leaves and made a little fire. I saw the flames were actually bigger than I had intended. Being a child and not understanding the consequences, I started covering the small burning pile with more dry leaves. Bigger and bigger the flames began to burn. My cousin that was with me ran into the house yelling for help. My mother came out and used a garden hose to
extinguish the fire. She then started a fire of her own on my backside.
Our words are like that fire. More and more of the same will only make matters worse.
Think before you speak. Think about the affect our words will have. Everything you think
doesn’t have to be said aloud. You wouldn’t intentionally do physical harm to someone you
love; so why should we want to mentally or emotionally hurt them?
We all have feelings and sometimes those feelings can be hurt by our spouse quicker than
anyone else; more often than not, it is by spoken words. Learning to quickly say “I’m sorry”
and making amends is good. Learning to think before we speak and to not say those things
is a little bit harder to master. It takes practice.
When we are committed to our spouse in marriage we are to love each other and emulate
the relationship between Christ and His bride, the Church.
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it;”
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